Originality, How To Find Yours.

have you ever felt like what is my life, I am literally good for nothing, all of my special qualities include watching TV, surfing the internet and bugging my friends and sitting and worrying and dying?  Don’t worry we’ve all been there and that internet part is what my majority of the day looks like. I always believe that everybody has some kind of talent and if you haven’t found yours then surely, you’re doing something wrong.  Now, I ain’t expert at giving advice but I can surely tell you how I get enlighten and inspired to run after my specialty which is *irritating people ( naah)* Writing and devouring books and just simply learning and discovering Literature. Finding originality is very tough to achieve in the likes of being judged so first thing you’d do before reading my big piece of article is to devoid yourself from FEAR OF BEING JUDGED.

Did you say that talent and interest in literature are worthless *yaa keep ongoing*?  Now, my dear listen judging others over their actions and simply demotivating others is what some people find pleasure in. The first thing one should always remember that nobody is entitled to judge you until you let them do so. There are some manmade rules set by humans and they accept every being to act like one, but little did they know that well-behaved person who likes to be accepted never do GREAT not good GREAT in life. Telling my parents that I wanna pursue English lit was very stressful as apparently, there isn’t any good career available for us but whatsoever I LIKE THIS AND I WANNA DO THIS BECAUSE ENGLISH IS WHAT I AM GOOD AT AND LOVE TO DO. To be successful you need to understand that difference is good, you don’t need a big herd of people surrounding you TBH the more people you befriend with the more time you’ll NOT have to concentrate on your skills. Taking career advice is another thing okay don’t put your head in the air after reading this that you don’t listen to any valuable advises, differentiate between what’s good and what’s toxic for you.

Now, this does seem like an insane advice but trust me this works just fine if you imply in a good way. I am socially awkward person with anxiety disorder so I don’t properly merge well with crowd *sometimes* during my 9^th and 10^th my only friends got separated from me which was hard because I HATE MAKING FRIENDS and my new mates were literally all so extrovert and bunch of popular girl *blaah” I hated them all but now that I look back they weren’t so bad, I was way too shy to approach. But, this opens an opportunity to concentrate on me. I am not a bright student, I am below average student and lazy, so this was depressing again to tell myself that Shubhra you’re good and well. Rather than becoming some mindless mugger I tried to improve on my social quotient and tried to understand that if I am so pathetic at math and science and Hindi why do I even care what my marks are on these subjects and why I bother to pursue them even though they’re titled as the intellectuals’ subjects so I dropped it in 11^th and dad did scold me for choosing this path obviously he later understand my side and I have never been happier though I regret not pursuing my History love.  In order to find your individuality, you gotta cut those things which distract you from achieving it like people, subject and whatever.

Now listen y’ll as I mentioned above it’s okay to lack something we all aren’t perfect and trynna be perfect will never do you a favor.  A person can only be good at 4-5 things and trust me it’s all you need in life to become successful and finding originality. I always like to give an example from my life because obviously, that’s how I’ll connect to y’ll. Lemme be brutally honest with you I failed my maths exams multiple times *no regrets* this actually allowed me to think this theory that failure is important in life if you wanna know what your capabilities are.  Don’t bother with your reputation trust me people think what they wanna think you just keep on going with your brainstorms. If people label me as a failure and dumb student then I couldn’t care less because maths is not I wanna excel at. So, it’s better to put your vision into improving something you have rather than in what you don’t have. We are only humans and if you go through lives of unique and successful people you’ll find one thing common which is FAILURE

Action over Concentration Distraction

Are you one of those people who get distracted way too easily (Hands up if you’re because literally, this is my whole life) This has happened to me on countless occasions I can’t even point one incident.  I have an attention span of a toddler kinda worst than that. Especially during writing or studying for paper my mind wander off to far distant land I have never been to or unlikely situation ( once I dreamt about hanging out with harry styles and marked all the possible way I could hang out with him *Pat me* ) rather than focusing on my actual work I keep on making absurd scenario ( see I am doing it now ) so how do we restrain ourselves from running towards wilderness and focus our 100% attention towards our work like a ninja 😊 so the given details you might’ve already heard of but never really put this advices into action, how do I know. If you were following the instructions you won’t be here in the first place (or you just like my blog, in that case, I love you) Now take a deep breath and clear your mind to emptiness, stop that music you are playing or whatever you are thinking, inhale and exhale 😊

 

There’s always that one song that got stuck in our vortex just like gum in the hair and it keep on playing its chorus until we wanna smash it😊 (don’t remind me of that gum incident, that fucking gum) so before starting off with your project it is better to play that music beforehand or take a break and treat your craving by listening to it and then put it aside. (one time I was preparing for a really important test and this Ed Sheeran song kept on playing, so I paused for a while and listened to it and then go on with the preparation and then again, I stopped for a while and listened to it) this hack worked out perfectly for me 😊 sometimes we gotta stop and listen to our heart because the heart wants what it wants (dang it I be back after listening to it)

Ever tried this handy tip, of course you’ve but like seriously consider this with the solemn approach. That one last scroll through your social media will divert you forever and you will find yourself an hour later scrolling through your 3 years old feed (does that happen) there’s this cool app called Forest (click to download) you can actually you should download this app; this app will keep you aloof from those vicious social media by producing trees, what did I just say (I am so bad at explaining) nonetheless put your phone on silent mode and DO NOT check your notification section and don’t bother with your phone’s chime dance.

In this hectic world, it is so difficult to find your own Santa Claus, who’d spoil you with gifts and pamper you with affection. Okay why do you even need one when you can literally love yourself I mean pamper yourself by giving yourself some small chocolate treats for completing your work, just don’t overdo it (I gained 3 Kg last summer from heavy pampering) Chocolates always boost your morale and motivates you to do more (gonna eat an entire chocolate bar after finishing this article)